I’ve kept a very low profile this week in terms of social media. I needed to take a step back, recharge, and evaluate where I’m at. We’re heading towards the end of the year now, and for me this has been a wild one. There’s a lot I could talk about but sometimes I prefer to keep mulling it over for a while longer.
This week was harder than most. Honestly, the month of November has been a challenge. What’s with all the sick bugs, and colds, and viruses?! I swear I’m on a repeated sickness cycle. Nobody likes to be unwell. It’s rubbish. Add in some exhaustion and it’s a glorious recipe for a depressive episode.
I’ve said it a lot recently but, I’m really fed up of being mentally ill. I am so done with it. Frustration is mounting with each passing day – though I now have a new medical team who are exceptionally positive. I’m at the limbo stage of the process where I’ve made a load of progress but still can’t see the finish line.
Thoughts have whirled around in my head for the last few days as I’ve considered this journey. My illness has impacted on nearly every person in my life. When we talk about mental health battles, it can be so easy to forget that the fight doesn’t exist solely in one person’s mind: the destruction reaches out to every part of the social landscape. Relationships are hard, add a baby and it’s harder, add some mental illness and it’s even harder.
This time last year I was suicidal. I was self harming. Every day was a blanket of numb, and sadness, and frustration. I was literally praying to gods I don’t believe in that I would see my son’s first Christmas, and resigning myself to never seeing his first birthday. When I consider that now, it’s terrifying.
Thankfully my medical team have been exceptional. I have good days now: despite still having bad periods. My kid might be a bit tantruming rogue but I’m enjoying him far more now than I did before. I’m not worrying over every decision, and I’m trying not to be a helicopter parent so our son can spread his wings a little. Everything is still a work in progress. I’ve accepted that I’m not a perfect parent (most of the time) because there’s no such thing as perfect. My kid laughs, and he draws, and he runs, and he sings, and he gives me kisses and says night night at the end of the day – that’s pretty perfect.